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Everyone would react differently to this question depending on the surroundings. Some people would rather speak what is acceptable which in this case is “yes, i make my decisions blah blah and would abstain till marriage” but deep down, probably, many of us would quickly jump into bed with our lover if the mood is right.
Now, mood being alright includes so many things...you had a nice day, its a wedding and you are out with your lover, after a couple of beers, its so cold out and your lover snuggles up with you...list is endless.
Several people have taken a swipe at answering this question and i qoute my favourites here...
Jacqueline Mbabazi, 21, Student
“Guys normally apply the pressure demanding for sex once you have dated for a while. But if I have decided to abstain then much as I respect his feelings and desires, mine comes first and there is no compromise. If he cannot accept that then he is better off finding a girl who will give in to his demands.”
“Guys this, guys that” is always the pening statement. I believes its the girls who bring it on the guys to force them into sex. Girls way of dressing leave nothing to imagination, driving the male species wild with desire. University girls have a habit of spending every little coin of their lover and offer nothing in return not even sharing the table bill. This creates a feeling of
somehow coming up with a way to recover the lost monies, in most
cases, sex proving a better priceless activity.
Jeff Mwaniki, 23, Student
Love is about sacrifices and it is not demanding. I believe if one truly loves their boyfriend or girlfriend and who chooses to abstain, their best interests must be observed much as one may argue that one who wants the sex also has best interests in that. But we all know that sex is only legal for the married.
Take note of last bit “...sex is only legal for the married” Do you believe that? If you don’t you should! So what’s your take on this? Comments are welcome.
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No, seriously, just to help the information flow around, very few, and I mean VERY few, Europeans, men and women alike, think that sex should be for marriage only. In fact they (and I, as it happens) don’t really see what the sex issue has got to DO with marriage at all!!
In Europe, sex is legal for people over 15 or 16 depending on the country, and that’s fine and can’t be criticised, just as I would never criticise the opinion and laws in countries in, say, Africa or the Indian-sub-Continent, which may be different.
I say this with the utmost respect for for anyone who thinks differently for social, religious or any other reasons...
The answer is, in my humble opinion, there is no ”truth” or”right” way to think. It all depends on who you are...and it’s cultural. Live your lives, be happy. That’s the important thing....
Thanks.
We kind of live double lives in my country, one during day where we believe & convince the onlookers that sex is only for married people and another at night where we don’t care whether we already 18 or less to have sex.
In Uganda, if we believed that sex is for only married people, then we wouldn’t be having all the teenage pregnancies and most of all a very high number of HIV/AIDS infected people.
Europe is fine with their ”be happy, live happy lives” life maybe we ought to come out & be the same?!
No-one wins at that game. People are frustrated, and the makers-of-the-rules are ignored. If people and their representatives are out of sync. That’s BAD NEWS!!! For everyone.......
What next if an accident happens and a irepairable injury is caused.
coupulation is sambhog enjoyment together the innermost body parts come in to contact with each other
when there is no commitment it is like having a meal at a hotel you pay your way just like a paid sex
sex in marriage enhances the process of bonding provided copulation is not clinical
in ancient india people used to take copulation as yagna to have good progeny
to discharge social debt
they used to invoke holy spirits to come to their house in the form of their child
this is why sex was studied as a science & vatsayana sage wrote a treatise on the same
we even have a separate god called kamdev for the same
& yes i can think for myself not for my daughter unless we have an open dilogue too conservative for that though i did try to explain to her how baby’s are born ,when young so that she knows the consequences of an innocent playful contact with opposite sex
the other day my sister in law was complaining her 4 year old son wanted to take of the clothes of his two year old cousin to know what she looked like
breast feeding in public is common in rural india no one minds exposure of breasts
it is all the attitude
animals do not mind, nudity we do
You have a raised a very good question. Many of us do think whether it is morally right to go for premarital sex or not?
The answer to your question is that if two individuals are responsible enough to bear the consequences then they should go ahead with it.
It is the society that we live in makes it acceptable or not.
in india conservative people take it as gifting there partner a worn out dress & are even going for the required surgery
to give the impression of virginity
Virginity is just a orice of skin..And i’d say just cut it off surgically at birth if it is going to be used as a tool to sexually repress women...
There is no way to prove a man is not a virgin...So why this bias?
Think it’s a very disgusting way of thinking...
i was just stating the concept as persons in my circle think
wife is not a sex toy
but i think a large no of people will prefer the partner not having prior experience in order to unfold the joys of sex together
yes ,men want to have fun but will not give the same freedom to women
as if normal men can have fun all by themselves
takes two to tango
but in this day of live in relationships if my daughter gets a boy friend i would not like to get her preg or have aids or any other disease or be subjected to blackmail with her compromising snaps floating all over or to go through emotional trauma on break up
so it is better to wait
patience is always sweet
Nobody likes to get involved in any of the suffering you mention out of pre-marital affairs but... its that human daring spirit that comes to the fore once in a while saying ”... what the hell, am only doing it once” and then all hell break loose..